YOU MAY HAVE A PROBLEM WITH RESENTMENTS IF....
You dwell on a memory of being reprimanded, feeling sad, or angry
You fantasize about running into a former lover who realizes they made a mistake and enjoy the thought of brushing them off
You daydream about getting a promotion above your boss and treating them the way they treat you
You replay your side of a disagreement over and over in your mind until your superior logic “gets through” to the other person and they see the error of their ways
You spend a lot of time with yourself silently judging and criticizing every word and action of another person
You feel unseen, unheard and unappreciated. Sometimes it gives way to snide comments and sarcastic jokes.
You distance yourself from someone who has disrespected your needs. You give them the silent treatment and don't try to fix it.
STRATEGIES TO LET GO OF RESENTMENTS....
Acknowledge that you have it. Self-awareness is the first step to making a change.
Recognize the cause. Ask yourself what it is you are afraid of happening or not happening.
Take responsibility for your emotions. Remember nobody 'makes you feel.' You are in charge of your feelings, get in touch with them and learn what they are telling you.
Stay in the present moment. Resentments are reliving past hurts which is impossible to do if your mind is in the here and now.
Learn to forgive. First step in learning to forgive others is forgiving yourself. No human is perfect.
People can get a perverse satisfaction in feeding their resentments. Many times, the only thing that keeps us from being free of resentments is the fear of being without them. Time to let them go.
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